Thursday, May 28, 2009

Theme Thursday (Suitcase)

My Mother came out of the bedroom, crying hysterically,shouting obscenities at the man that she loved, the only man that she had ever loved, the Father of her two children, My father called for me to come into the room, and I, being all of 5 years old, didn't know if I was in trouble, or if I had caused Mom to fall to pieces. I slowly made my way into the room, with that nervous walk that children do when they think a spanking is coming. My Father was not visible at first, only an open SUITCASE was lying there on the bed. He emerged a few seconds later from the closet with a handful of clothes, and threw them into the suitcase. He picked me up and sat me on the bed and said,"I know that you will not understand this now, but one day, when you are older, you will understand that this is better for all of us, it is not healthy for us to live unhappily, always fighting and arguing. There is nothing in this world that means more to me than You and David, but I cannot stay here anymore"! My Father proceeded to hug me and then he folded up his SUITCASE and dissappeared into the blackness of the night. My mother, sobbing, grabbed onto me and cried. I looked at her and asked,"Mommy, who is going to help me fly my kite"? It was a rough time,but, in the end, it was probably for the best, over the years, I have come to realize that My parents were never really compatible, and I met alot of people that I would have never known!

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26 comments:

dizzblnd said...

How sad is that? At least they figured it out BEFORE hey spent 36 years together like my parents. I hope that you hold no resentment towards either of them now that you are older and realize they did it out of love for you.

Brian Miller said...

wow. tough piece. happens way too often and see the after affects in the kids i counsel.

lisa said...

ditto. except I was 2yrs. old.

Gaston Studio said...

Hard to take for the children at the time, but living in a toxic household isn't good either.

subtorp77 said...

My Dad never sat me down like that. He left flat out after the divorce in '74...regained custody in '79 but I never let him off the hook. Thanks for sharing otin. 'Tis good to let it out...

Baino said...

OH that's so sad. You poor thing. I'm not sure if it's worse watching it happen or just finding out after the fact. Very intimate of you to share this one.

Mango Girl said...

Very touching post... Glad your parents had the smarts to leave one another before the toxicity became worse.

Did your father stay in touch?

Candie Bracci said...

wow,this is really touching.

Wings said...

I say the same thing, staying together "for the sake of the children" usually does them more harm in the end. And yeah, speaking from experience, too. Good post!

The Clever Pup said...

Sad. I hope your mother didn't have to suffer financially.

Marissa said...

As painful as divorce and its aftermath can be, I really think most kids are extremely resilient, as long as they're still allowed to be kids. Otin, you're a great example of that resilience! Look how warm and charming you IS!

Ronda Laveen said...

I was wondering which of us would be strong enough to lay it all out there on the "leaving suitcase" story. Wonderfully told. Thanks for this important piece of an all to frequent story.

Vickens said...

wow - never heard that story. but had it never happened i wouldn't of been born...

Marianna said...

Thank you for sharing this experience with us. It must have been hard and it is amazing how many things children understand and remember (as adults)...

*Just Jen* said...

Awwwwww! That made me CRY!!! :(

Michel said...

Damn man! I'm soo sorry.

rxBambi said...

Wow. that brought back memories. I was in first grade. My mom, sisters and I moved to a condo for about 6 months while dad stayed in the house all by himself. And his girlfriend I think. I swore I'd hate her, but then we went horseback riding at this little place outside of town. My horse's name was Blue. My parents were lucky tho, they reconciled and moved back in together (never officially divorced, only separated). I couldn't understand then why my mom took him back, but they spent the rest of their days happy together. He died right before their 50th anniversary.

Otin said...

Like I said, Alot of people are in my life that would not have been, so everything is a trade off, we all have good relationships with each other now, and , yes, Vickens is one of those people that is a good result of a bad situation!

Hit 40 said...

Great dad having the balls to say goodbye before he left. He could have just stormed out without a word that night.

I like to just walk out occasionally they just all drive me a little batty. I say that I'm getting groceries then come back around 11 or 12 at night. Just need some quiet.

Jaime said...

so sad. touching post.

marathoner81 said...

oh so sad, but so well written.

Sandra Leigh said...

If only we could get through life without hurting the people we love.

Candie Bracci said...

Ok,where is Aloha friday???"How many times do I have to comment on the same post?"LOL!
Reaping what you sow,NA!Says a owl on coffee!LOL

Anonymous said...

thank you for sharing such a touching, personal story...wow, so well written.

otin said...

Your welcome!

Megan said...

Well done and on a tough subject. Hope you are enjoying your weekend!