Friday, November 13, 2009

Bye George! Some Saturday Non- Fiction


The late 70’s was such a great time to be a kid. We would come home from school and before my mother knew it, my brother and I would be out the door and up the street to the park. It was an every day ritual that extended into the weekend and was an all day event during the Summer months.

We always knew who would be at the park. There was George and Tommy, and Anthony, they were constants. There were also some kids who showed up every once in a while like, Lonnie and David, but for the most part, it was those three, along with me and my brother.

Although we were all in the same age range, I was a lot bigger than the other kids. Just from appearance, one would probably guess that I was three or four years older, but that was not the case. We would play football and baseball and I was always the one that everyone wanted to have on their team. I still laugh at the thought of three people trying to tackle me without having any luck.

George was your basic ten year old bully. He would fight anyone at anytime, regardless of size or age. I was his total opposite. I shied away from confrontation and would leave anytime that George wanted to start something with someone. I actually remember other kids wanting to go home and George not letting them leave. There would be fighting and name calling, but we all would come back the following day, like nothing had ever happened.

Many days we would not even make it to the park. George’s house was just three doors up and his back yard was ideal for football. We would play until we would hear our mother’s voice echoing off of the houses between our home and George’s.

“Michael! David! Time to eat!”

Of course, at that age, your friends all made fun of you for having to obey your mother, but it always seemed like we were the only ones who had to go home. I am sure that is just the way that I remember it, though.

Summers were the best. We used to get baseball games going that would last 10 hours! Because of the fact that we had no real time restrictions, we could recruit kids from other parts of town. We would end up with a dozen or more kids, sometimes. George’s cousin Frankie, was a regular. He and George were not that close at the time, but would be in the future. These were the best years of my life!

When I was about to start eighth grade, I let my father convince me that I would be better off living with him, about two hours away. The lure of his home in a coastal town, and his persistent badgering caused me to make a move that I wish that I had not. I left my brother and my little click of friends and spent two lonely years in a school where I failed to make new buddies. I would talk to my brother and he would tell me that he was on his way up to George’s house, and I would hang up the phone and cry. It was a definite low point for me.

My brother hung out with the gang for another year and then my mother and stepfather moved about ten miles away to the next town. By the time that I was in tenth grade, my father’s marriage had fallen apart and I went back to live with my mother. My brother and I were reunited, but we no longer had a gang. We developed some new friends, (one of whom is actually responsible for me being a blogger.) but never really could recapture what we had. I felt like our Beatles had split up. It is funny how it was back then. My childhood friends lived ten miles away, and they might as well have lived in Alaska. We did not get driven places very much.

I remember going back one time and hooking up with George and Tommy. They wanted to go up to the top of the railroad ridge and throw large rocks at passing cars. I knew better than to do that. Although my brother wanted to stay, I dragged him away and I think that was the last time that we ever hung out with those two.

High school was interesting because our school imported kids from three different townships. There were two high schools, one geared for academics, and another one that was a technical school, for kids who had no future college plans. George and Tommy, and George’s cousin Frankie went to the latter school, while My brother and I attended the other high school.

I did not see George again until I was eighteen or nineteen. I ran into him at the mall. I had my normal little sedan type car, and he had his souped up muscle car, exactly what I would have expected from him. We talked for a while. He had a bruise on his face from a fight that he had been in. He never came out and told me that, but I still knew how he was. He was there with a very attractive girl named, Teresa, and his cousin Frankie.
A mutual friend of ours had told me how George and Frankie had become best buddies. There was a part of me that was a little jealous. George, although a crazy guy sometimes, had been my close childhood friend. I was the only one who could reason with him and actually talk about things with him. I hated my father for messing up my childhood.

Some time later, I don’t remember the exact time frame, I ran into Lonnie, one of the semi regular kids from the playground. I had not seen him in about ten years and the full beard and mustache took me by surprise. Lonnie asked me if I had heard about George? I told him that I had not heard anything.

Apparently, George’s cousin Frankie, had been sleeping with Teresa, and George had found out. George went to Frankies house with a shot gun and shot him point blank in the thigh, almost severing Frankie’s leg. Upon seeing what he had done, George tied a tourniquet around his cousin’s leg, threw him in the backseat of his car, and left him on the concrete walk outside of the emergency room. When the police tracked George down, he had already blown his own head off.

I saw Frankie, one time, years later, walking down the street with his prosthetic leg. I did not even let him know that I noticed him. Part of my childhood died when I heard about George. I think that life was the only fight that he ever backed down from.

52 comments:

The Bumbles said...

Otin - no wonder your fiction ends up sad. Your true stories lean that way too.

I know how you felt leaving friends behind. And also how reconnecting wasn't quite the same.

I know about losing friends too - to a variety of methods. But not that way.

I think you are lucky - you kept your closeness with your brother and found a way through things.

George had issues he couldn't confront. I'm glad you were able to get to see a different side of him. But I'm glad he didn't drag you down with him.

The Crazy Baby Mama said...

wow, what a powerful, poignant story. the ending was like a blow to my gut. thank you for sharing all of this with us.

otin said...

It is so far in the past that it is a very distant memory anymore. I am not traumatized by it. I find that the movie, "Stand By Me" really hits home with me. As far as my stories having sad endings, I think that I just find it more interesting to tell a tale that way. I try to throw an upbeat spin every once in a while. :)

TechnoBabe said...

It probably saved your relationship with your brother to be able to attend high school together. I went to four different high schools and do not have any reason to go to a high school reunion because I was only at the high school 3 months at the time of graduation. Way too much moving around throughout my entire life. Your childhood memories of playing in the park and of you being the biggest boy are still good memories. You saw something in George when you were all just kids. And you were as good a friend as you could be.

AngelMay said...

Strange memories we all have from our youths. Lucky for you, Otin, you made the right choices. I'm glad you did. I'm glad I know you.

Sarah said...

Isn't it depressing how much things have changed with most kids now? Instead of being torn away from the outdoors you practically have to bribe some kids to step foot outside. Now, they are being torn away from video games and computers. My childhood was much like yours, although in was the 80's and my best bud was a boy. We made up obstacle courses and timed each other. We built forts and lit things on fire. We played GI Joe and took turns picking "guys". We dug through the piles of vacuum dirt at the car wash next door and spent our nickles and dimes at the dime store across the street. Best years of my life too :) I am still in contact with my buddy, he is on my Facebook :) I had to stop being friends with him in middle school because he ended up liking me, which grossed me out :(

Baino said...

I know what you mean by 'Stand by Me'. Very sad ending for George, just goes to show that all that glitters is not gold. He was probably more upset about the infidelity than the shooting or maybe that's just a woman's perspective. Friends don't sleep with other friend's girls. The consequences as you show can be dire. What of Teresa? She is not guiltless in this sad tale? One man dead and one man maimed - she must feel awful.

Ronda Laveen said...

Fortnuately, George's story was far different from yours...no matter how close you were at one time. I had a friend that came to a sad demise. I know that our paths split for a reason. Thanks for the story and pic.

Tom said...

they say you can never go back...and maybe there's a good reason for that. Who knows. I like to remember the good times and enjoy the blessings of the day. But summer days with the neighborhood kids! They don't make 'em like that anymore, do they?

Vodka Logic said...

I let out a gasp at the end, I wasn't expecting that at all. Amazing how childhood stays with us.
xx

Tammy Howard said...

Y'know, I knew from your title that George would be leaving us, but I never suspected it would be like that. How tragic.

On a brighter note - I love the pic and your descriptions of that happier, simpler time. I remember it well.

Joanie M said...

Well, I sure wasn't expecting THAT ending.

I'd also like to know what happened with Theresa.

Gaston Studio said...

Really sad about Georgie but you probably wasn't all that surprised as he was evidently a bully from birth and I'll bet his father was too.

Just goes to show that we all have a say in how we turn out in life; having bad influences don't mean we have to allow them to take over.
Great post Otin.

only a movie said...

This made me smile for New Jersey in the 70s, and also made me smile for my son's recent escapades. He and his buddies hang in the neighborhood and are out and about all day long - same kids, same school playground, same goofy games. I know they all have some comfort in each other.
The end of this, of course, made me gasp.
Great post.

Alix said...

Otin - what a powerful story. Sweet with reminiscing until the death part. Dang.

It brought back a lot of similar memories of my childhood and the non-existent supervision we got. We lived outside. Played with our friends until after dark. Didn't get abducted, or murdered. It was a simpler time. For me at least.

Growing up always screws up childhood one way or another, doesn't it? At least you can always go back to the park in your mind when all was as it should be - and George and Frankie were there and life was good.

Tall Kay said...

This left me feeling really sad. Thanks for sharing a part of your past. It reminds me that we are all fighting some kind of battle.

Candie Bracci said...

wow,that is really sad Otin!

Antoinette said...

Wow...just wow.

I know the feeling of being lured away from friends by one of your parents and how when you're able to reconnect later in life, it's never the same. I have never known someone like George though. My heart actually aches for you and your loss of a childhood friendship in this story.

CatLadyLarew said...

Hey, Otin... this story resonates with me. It amazes me when I stop to realize how much trauma I've managed to come to terms with. Life is not easy and often it's only chance that puts us on one path over another. Thanks for another powerful story.

buffalodick said...

I grew up in the midst of the "Baby Boom" in an old Catholic neighborhood.. a bazillion kids everywhere! My parents wanted to move when I was about 12..my peer group, and my standing in that peer group meant everything to me. We moved two miles, so I never lost my friends.. I made sure my two sons were never uprooted, and to this day my youngest hangs out daily with 3-4 friends from grade school!

Wings said...

Wow. Great rememberance, Otin. There is a book in there, a memoir perhaps? Times were different for kids then than now, weren't they?

California Girl said...

Incredibly sad memory. It's a surprise when someone we thought we knew does the unexpected and we're left wondering "Why?".

Oh My Goddess said...

What amazing memories!
A girl who was one of my playground friends didn't turn out too well either.
Maybe we should just remember the better days!

Green-Eyed Momster said...

Isn't it weird how some things/people turn out? I know you said that you hated your dad for changing the course of your life but I'm sure there was a reason. Maybe just to put some distance between you and George? Sometimes life is stranger than fiction. Sully Erna's book is one of my most favorites. When I read about his early life, your old neighborhood is how I pictured the houses in his story. Thanks for sharing this memory of your past with us.

Brian Miller said...

wow. when things like this happen people think it only affects them, then we get left with the vacuum. intense memories. powerful post.

we are traveling on a similar wave length with the post i was putting together for tonight...

Cinnamon said...

A sad story. I am wondering how things may have turned out if you had been around throughout George's teen years to influence him. I think it is very normal for childhood and teenage friendships to chop and change because we all develop so much in those years- at different rates and in different directions.

You tell the story well, Otin :)

Midtown Girl said...

Now I feel sad.:-(

Tell me a happy story now..!

gaelikaa said...

What bittersweet memories!

Beth said...

Isn't it weird how things turn out sometimes? I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and with that - the loss of a big part of your childhood.

I am totally not surprised that you were the one who wanted to keep the peace. You are exactly that way now!

Skye said...

Wow Otin, you put a tear in my eye, both for how your childhood ended and for the fact that I never really had one. Perhaps one day I'll write about it, but not just yet.

Skye said...

Ps

Not necessarily a tear of saddness, more of a what-if really. I don't want you to get the wrong impression :)

blueviolet said...

Hey, how come this wasn't in my reader?

Your childhood makes me both happy and sad. I think hanging with friends in the neighborhood is a common happy memory most of us share. Those years really were the best!

What a sad way for two lives to end up. Based on what you said about George, it doesn't completely surprise me that his life ended up in a bad way, but still....

Carolee / Home4ever said...

Great story- so brutally honest.

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Alicia @ boylerpf said...

I had to read a few comments to make sure you were the person telling the story. Very sad, but you certainly came out on the good end. Perhaps moving away...even though it was not what you wanted to do at the time...was maybe the best thing to do. I often wonder if circumstances were changed when growing up where we would be today. I know one thing...it's gotten you to write some pretty awesome stories!

lisleman said...

Powerful story and thanks for sharing.
Life turns in so many directions. Peer pressure is powerful as is sex, revenge, guilt, etc.

I had a childhood friend that died at the early age of 35 of alcoholism. I had lost touch with him until it was too late to do anything. I doubt I could have done much. I was at his funeral, very sad.

'Stand by Me' - great movie I've watched more than once. Love those leeches.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

As you were describing your childhood days, I was thinking about the similarities to 'Stand By Me'. :)

So sad about George...such poignant memories - glad you chose the path you did so we could enjoy you in the here and now! :)

Ace said...

Poor George!! He was very impulsive. A good dose of adderall would have fixed that for him. Seriously!! I am not making light of it. My youngest also has anger issues that I have worked very hard to get under control....

whether he likes it or not. He has to play a sport to work out some of his anger. We just had a long discussion about it today because he is tired of swimming. We agreed that he had to play something and until he found something better that he had to go to swim team.

I used to take off on my bike all day. I would probably ride around 30 miles a day going to 2 towns over to the shopping mall. My parents had no idea how far that I rode.

Ace said...

Papa Roach and Loretta Lynn on the same playlist? I think the fumes at your work site are getting to you.

U R U! said...

I too remember when my mom would pack us lunches and my sisters and I would go to the beach/"rec" center for the day...saying "be home by supper"! Wow! If that isn't cheap day care. That would never happen in today's world.

Thanks for sharing a bit of your child hood...how sad that some people's lives go down the wrong paths. I am always touched by those who come into our life whether for a brief moment or to stay for years...I guess it doesn't matter the length of time we spend with some it just depends on the event and the impact they have.

kys said...

I wish my kids had that kind of childhood. I have to lock the doors to get them to stay outside for a half hour. (Did I just admit that?)

Megan said...

That's sad.

Knucklehead said...

Wow, that sure didn't go where I thought it was going. Sad tale indeed, Otin.

Kathy's Klothesline said...

Melancholy, bittersweet memories.

powdergirl said...

Jeez, too bad it went so bad. George must have been stunned by his own actions when he took his own life, and left his buddy an amputee. Sad thing.

Jill said...

Otin...I still mourn the fact that one can never go back...

Poor George.

Ms. Salti said...

Wow. What a story. Isn't it funny how we look back and miss our childhoods, when at the time, all we wanted to do was grow up?!

♥ Braja said...

Holy shit....I THOUGHT YOU SAID HAPPY??!?!!

Loredana said...

OMG that's nuts! I mean just crazy. It is amazing to seek out old friends and see where they've ended up. I love to reminisce about my childhood and it's scary to hear about where some people ended up. I had the best time growing up becaues I have 4 brothers and I was the only girl so we have lots of memories, lots of friends among us, even still today.

Too bad for Frankie but really too bad for George. I can't imagine the amount of guilt Frankie must live with still today.

Heidi said...

Wow, I'm saddened and suprised by this ending.
I was always the shy one who always got picked last for a team (and seriously didn't want to play anyways). And I was the target of many bullies. Eventually I learned to fight back and did kick some ass-rarely-in High School.
Thank goodness at my kids school there haven't been any physical fighting that my kids have seen. At my grade school there was at least one fight a day.

Mighty M said...

Such an intense story - and it's true? Wow.

subtorp77 said...

I like the part about the dishes. Mom has a few left from her Mom( as passed down from her Mom )...pretty sad ending tho', otin....but good work ;)

Pat said...

Wow - did not expect that ending. I was smiling reading about your childhood, while in my mind thinking of mine and agreeing with you how we'd play outside ALL DAY. We didn't watch tv or play on computers!

Then to read that sad ending - what a shocker. How sad.....

 
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