Dear Family Member,
Although this is a public forum, the fact that I have been doing this for 14 months and you were not informed about it should give you the clue that there is a certain amount of privacy that I like to keep in my life. Last night, as my finger hovered above "Delete Blog" button, I realized that erasing over a year of work was silly. If it fulfills some sort of voyeuristic curiosity to read some of my thoughts, then feel free to do so. It scares me a little to know that someone actually took the time to search for me. Maybe it isn't just spammers and identity thieves that I have to look out for. I think the point that I never sent people my blog url would be clue enough that I did not want it read in certain circles. If I am supposed to commend you on your cunning detective work, then I bow to the solver of life's greatest Scooby Doo mystery. Now I can feel like a teenager who just found out his mother just read his diary. Oh well, if there is anything that you want to know about me, it is probably hidden somewhere within these pages. Keep in mind that not everything is totally true. As for blueviolet....Yes, I do love her, and when I feel like sharing the story with you, then I will do so, unless you would rather try to piece it together, then have at it!
Dear blueviolet,
I love you, Honey, and am very sorry about the talk about changing my writing because of this incident. I am 44 years old and don't owe explanations to anyone. I love you dearly and that is all that anyone needs to know. Please do not change the way that you comment on my site, as that would hurt me deeply. I Love You.
Sincerely, Mike (Your Future Hubby)
82 comments:
WOW...
Micheal, You owe only yourself. You write because you enjoy it. You love because you feel it and them who want in *shrug* if they didn't want in during the past four decades it is of little consequence that they do so now.
Be Well
What Mark says goes for me as well...tho' I don't have the problem of that happening...kinda sad when I think about it...
Now I'm confused. Don't know what is real and what is not. Oh well..
Whatever you do my friend, don't hit delete!
You are so danged romantic!! Blueviolet, you are a lucky woman :-) Please don't change your writing b/c of whoever found you. Keep on keeping on!
You're right. You owe explanations to no one. Keep on keepin on!
I also have had "woodwork" readers and it does change the scenario a bit - but not too much. You are who you are and blueviolet is very, very lucky.
Keep 'em coming.
xox
OMG.. so blogosphere has crossed into real life!!! I love it.. can I put this in my book??? and because I follow you and BV can I come to the wedding... You guys Rock... will it be a virtual wedding???
I love you both!!! Hugs and Kisses!!!
Ali.
Whoa! Like Mo said, whatever you do, do not hit that delete button! And Mark said exactly what I was thinking... :)
You are a talented writer, and whoever made you feel like you needed to delete your blog should be flogged. Or banned. Or something.
Be yourself (which you are) write whatever the hell you want to write (which you do) and know that we're here for you! :) ((HUGZ!!))
Hope you have all your writing saved, at least!
And dude, do this for YOU. Don't give a rat's ass what others think, read or say. It is YOUR blog, not theirs.
I agree with Wings. It's your blog. Do it for you. And I think you're great. Hang in there!
glad you did not let them win this round...have fun...if they dont want to enjoy the ride, let them off at the next stop...
I agree with Brian - don't let them win. Keep on being you!
I agree with Brian - don't let them win. Keep on being you!
Write. Love. Live. Those people who want to cause strife will get over it or not. Write. Love. Live.
We got your back, don't forget!!!
namaste
Er...wait a minute....didn't you mean BRAJA, and not Blueviolet, you two timing B&^#%$....!!!
Awwww....Otin, never hit delete. Or I'll hunt you down and ... I dunno....do something....
Er...wait a minute....didn't you mean BRAJA, and not Blueviolet, you two timing B&^#%$....!!!
Awwww....Otin, never hit delete. Or I'll hunt you down and ... I dunno....do something....
When I realized my blog was being stalked by an undesirable "relative" (my ex's current wife, the lying bitch), I logged their IP address and blocked them from being able to access my site. So she had a FRIEND of hers start reading it for her! :rolleyes: I just logged her IP address and blocked her, too.
Is there anyway you can do this in Blogger?
Jan from the Sushi Bar
When I realized my blog was being stalked by an undesirable "relative" (my ex's current wife, the lying bitch), I logged their IP address and blocked them from being able to access my site. So she had a FRIEND of hers start reading it for her! :rolleyes: I just logged her IP address and blocked her, too.
Is there anyway you can do this in Blogger?
Jan from the Sushi Bar
wow...be true to yourself dear Otin and i hope you don't push the delete. you're a good writer and i hope you pursue this until "you've" had enough. i hope you and BlueViolet have eternal happiness.
warm smiles,
Baby, you know I'm so sorry that your writings have been exposed to the point where you're uncomfortable. I wish it weren't so, and it hurts me to know it hurts you.
I will comment in exactly the same way that I always have. I love you more than anything! You are the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you, as your adoring wife. I love you!
Way to stand up for yourself. Good luck, Otie.
E
All of a sudden someone cares to read you who had not cared before?
Pssstt.. keep writing. Keep loving. We all want to come to the wedding!
blueviolet- I cannot wait for the day when we can be together for good. I like to let people know things when I want them to have that information! I love you always!
Wow. I'm sorry they found the blog and it has you this upset. Don't hit delete. Your fan club would miss you terribly.
Seriously you delete this blog and I will have to stop feeling sorry for myself and get up and come kick your ass!
Brother man don't let anybody rain on your parade. You belong here, you belong to us :-))
I love me some blueviolet too and Otin! "Keep it coming Love"
I've been absent in the blog world, and I come back to this?
I didn't know you were lovey dovey with blueviolet! That's almost as awesome as you NOT hitting the delete button.
Otin and blueviolet sittin' in a tree...
Way to go, Mike. The blog is yours. Keep it that way. Don't give family any control over your feelings or your actions. You have a good thing here in your blog and you have so many followers who have your back covered. And you have Blue Violet and your future together. Whoo Hoo! We are all ecstatic for you both. I hope you know that. We all have to "come out" in our blogs a little I am finding out. I will when hubby's CD gets finished which is actually in a few months. Hugs to you and Blue Violet from me and hubby. CiCi
WOW! Am I believing what I am reading? Do these miracles really happen? Is there a real life love affair happening right under our noses? No doubt it will all be revealed in time!
Hey, if you ever do hit that delete button, remember to save all of your work. I deleted all of a blog that I used to run, but I saved everything on a disk. I've not looked at it since, because all of the work that I put into it just broke my heart!
Dude. There is an entire team of technicians on their way over to your house right now, with the intent to remove any and all delete buttons on your computer.
That is all.
Hang in there, Otin! We love your writing. Be yourself and you don't owe anyone an explanation!
Congrats to you and Blueviolet!
I'm lucky my family doesn't read my blog. But that is exactly why I don't do Facebook. I like some anonymity. Don't let a nosy family member keep you from doing what you feel compelled to do. Life is too short to be at the mercy of other people's opinions. I think the popularity of your blog proves that. Not to mention you seem to have found love. Your blog has been a good thing for you. Onward and upward.
Having gone through a similar "discovery" lately, I know exactly how you feel. I found that once the shock was over, the drama ended too.
I'm grateful I didn't delete my blog in the heat of the moment. I hope you too will just let the dust settle, and get back to what you do best...write stories.
Love and hugs to you and BV.
So well put. Best wishes. -J
I'm so glad you didn't hit delete! I'm glad you figured it out that you don't have to hit delete! EVER! I echo all the above sentiments.
STAY!
You could always make your blog private and send all of your loyal fans an invitation to your private blog. (Hint, hint!)
Hey, does this mean you can "friend" me on Facebook now?
;)
Sorry I missed hangman on Saturday night. I hope I get the chance to play again.
STOP!
Turn around. Place your hands in the air and slowly back away from the delete button.
Otin, you are to talented and too smart to let this stop you from doing what you love. Keep writing. Keep loving. You do them both so well.
Otin...your raw honesty and emotion in your writing is so refreshing. I love your stories and the open way you are able to express your love to sweet Blueviolet!
You should never be made to 2nd guess yourself or your blog. You have made the blogosphere a better place to those that look forward to your each and every post. We beg you to never "delete". Take the high road, dear friend.
This is YOUR space. Don't let anyone take that away from you. We would've all come battering down your door to find you, anyway.
Do whats in yer heart!
Hi Otin
This made me tear up. I know you wanted to say piss off to whomever thought it their business to snoop around, and I don't know what exactly happened, but honey? There will always be people who want to villify others. For me? the story of yours and blueviolet brings me hope.
Wow. Remember when blogging was easy, you just wrote what you wanted to write? It can still be that way, Otin. It's YOUR blog. YOUR feelings. YOUR writings. You do what YOU want. You are an excellent writer with so much talent. I would like to see you go even further with it, but that is up to you. I am happy for you and Blue Violet, you both sound so in love. As far as your blog goes - If you feel YOU have reached the end of blogging - that's one thing. But do NOT end the blog because of SOMEONE ELSE!!!! In either case, we would all miss you terribly! Hang tough!
Outside of my immediate household, NO ONE knows about my blog. Not even my grown children, extended family, friends, neighbors, work....NO ONE. And for the same reasons you describe.
Mike, take your own advice I once saw you give to someone else who was considering closing their blog. Don't do it. You will regret it.
love your short stories dude. Keep on rockin' and rollin', and congrats on the engagement.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't... I told what Ghandi had to say a couple of times in his life- F*ck 'em!
I don't know what to say. There's nothing at all offensive within this blog so why would it offend anyone or cause them to troll? Then I'm reading between the lines and can only think that someone is perhaps jealous of your relationship? Don't delete. You get much pleasure from it and so do we. If it's bothering you, just go private and issue invitations to those you want to read. Stick to your guns!
Once you cross 40, it starts being unimportant what other people think. One of the few blessings of getting older.
Does your family member require Casa Hice to open up a ginormous can of whoop ass on them? Cuz I'm totally up for it.
And the same fate awaits you if you EVER delete this blog.
Scared?
Someone mentioned blocking the IP Address and I think you should check that out through sitemaster.
Btw, my mom did read my diary and high school after encouraging to keep one and swearing she'd NEVER read it because her brother read hers growing up. So, I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.
Don't delete! This is your space and should be able to post whatever you want. I allowed myself to be chased from a previous blog. Don't let it happen to you! Screw them!
I can totally relate to this one!
Thanks for not giving it up! I just adore reading your and BV's comments to each other!!
And all your other stuff too of course! :)
It's hard to decide what to write on your blog when it's in such a public forum. My family doesn't read my blog and I'd like to keep it that way. Sorry this has caused you so much grief.
In other news, I want an invitation to the wedding!
Oh PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not delete! I know I have not been around much but I do honestly love reading your posts. Give that family member the middle finger and keep on writing Otie!!!
Delete? NOOOOOOOO! Please say you won't do that!
Tell you what... we'll all be your new family and come and dance at your wedding. Just keep on writing!
Your entire online family has put their foot down on that DELETE BLOG business. Capiche?
Now, Family of our Beloved Otin, go back to what you were doing before. Go ahead, move along, nothing to see here.
Dang! They are pokey!
This is a No Judgey Zone. Otie, never give away your power to control what you write or don't write because nosy peeps with an agenda are sneaking a peek. In fact, fuck 'em.
I believe you have just had the last word, Otin.
The End.
I've been bad about keeping up with blogs and I just saw this! Otie's in love?!?!? Really? I have to hear the true story....seriously! Have you met her in person or is this all an online love affair? Yes, Otin, I'm nosy. Believe it.
But I'm allowed to be nosy, because I'm a blog bud, not a member of your family. Please, please, PLEASE don't let the fact that someone found your blog discourage you. You're so talented, you're so creative, you're such a good person. It's your blog, your rules.....and I'm all for the whole "find the IP address and block them" idea.
I'm happy you've found love. :)
Wait, your name is Mike? I thought it was Otin. I feel so lied to, LOL. Sometimes having someone find your blog is a wonderful thing. I hope this turns out better for you than it appears to be. *hugs*
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
I went through a similar inner struggle not too long ago when I found out a certain member of my extended family was reading my blog and making unnecessary nasty comments to other family members but soon realized that it wasn't ME who has the problem, it's them!
Have a better than fantastic week, and keep on writing!
don't leave us. The suicide rate will definitely reach maximum.
Seriously, so what if they found your blog. We love you, we want you, we are all so happy for you and BV. Stay. Please.
Your family has their own Otin. Here you're our Otin!
Seriously, dude, you know you'd be grievously missed if that finger ever did more than hover.
I think you know that we love you more than Joanie loves Chachi.
You are a talented writer and a good friend to everyone. If you do decide to delete your blog (God forbid) do it for yourself because you are too busy going on wonderful adventures with BV or because you have a new hobby (God forbid) or any other personal reason. Don't let them win.
(I'm sure you're backing up everything on here, right?)
I think you know that we love you more than Joanie loves Chachi.
You are a talented writer and a good friend to everyone. If you do decide to delete your blog (God forbid) do it for yourself because you are too busy going on wonderful adventures with BV or because you have a new hobby (God forbid) or any other personal reason. Don't let them win.
(I'm sure you're backing up everything on here, right?)
Sorry, buddy. But thinking that a blog can be kept private is a pipe dream.
Unless you really DO go private, in which case, I'd better get an invite!
Oh man, you were found. I'm glad you aren't deleting your blog because of it! And for real, are you two going to get married?????
Ok, step away from the delete button. Take a breath.
I can't believe it. Not very long ago, I too posted about the exact same thing. You were one of the hero's that commented and saved me for pressing the delete button. Stay strong...your future is worth it.
"Don't let them take up space in your head, they are not worth it"
Besides, you need room up there for Blue Violet and all your magical stories.
HUGS
Delete the "family" member not the blog. I'm sure you get much more satisfaction and joy from the blog than you do from the "family" member.
I sending you much love and admiration. Stand strong, be you, let the haters hate, and the lovers love.
I'm glad to know you aren't going to delete your blog. Write a really scary story, featuring that person! That could be FUN! and therapeutic!
My sister, the nun found my blog because her order had a google alert whenever their name popped up. Another nun forwarded the link to her and she read it. Now I make sure never to mention them ever again. If I could block her I would!
Well it looks like you have ALOT of people who definatly don't want you to delete...myself included, I hope you keep up with your writing, I always enjoy your blog :)
As your 71st commenter on this post I will join the people begging you to keep that finger off the delete button...
I once had a family member tell another family member who in turn told me..."I won't read her blog because her mother loves her."
She meant that she didn't like me searching for my bio family. Of course this person didn't tell me that to my face. If she had read my blog she would know it has nothing to do with whether my mother loves me or not.
I say screw her, I don't write for her.
Don't delete!
Like everyone else has said, Don't delete. Don't ever quit because of someone else. Do what you want to do, and what makes you happy.
I agree with all the others!! Be yourself!1
OH.EM.GEE.
Uhm, I have been a bad bloggy friend bc I should have read this already...will text you now!!
I would not let your frustration with others dictate how you choose to express yourself. I am so very glad that BV and you love each other and are willing to express it openly. Hitting the delete button could be considered suicide in the blog world, so take a deep breath and think about it long and hard if you find your mouse hovering over the delete button again.
People are so stupid.
Hugs and smooches to you both.
I don't think there's anything I could add that hasn't already been expressed.
You are amazing.
Don't ever hit delete.
Blueviolet is equally as amazing.
Love you both.
Can I come to the wedding as well.
and,
SHAME ON YOU, to the person who has invaded your privacy to such a degree!!
xoxoxo
Sorry to hear about the situation you are in with one of your relatives. Don't hit the delete button!
Wow - you guys are getting married! Congrats again!
I just found you! You can't go away!!!! I love your world!! And BlueViolet too! Stay please stay!! Don't let anyone push your buttons and you leave us here in bloggy land!! We love you!!
I warned my family, my friends, and my family members' friends to read at their own risk. BUT I would freak if any of my students or their parents found my blog. Hang in there.
Hope things work out with your family members and your new life and family.
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